This World Mental Health Day (10th October) focuses on the impact of overwhelm when we are repeatedly exposed to global crises and relentless bad news. It is natural to care deeply about what is happening in the world. However, the steady stream of difficult headlines can leave us feeling anxious, low, and helpless, which can spill over into our relationships. When bad news is affecting your relationship, it may show up as distance, irritability, or silence. But, left unspoken, this sense of overwhelm can quietly damage closeness and intimacy.
As I write this article, the recent attack in a Manchester synagogue has unfolded, a shocking reminder of how fragile life can feel. When events like this happen, our sense of safety is shaken, we fear for ourselves and those closest to us. As a result of these traumatic events, we might experience physical, as well as emotional symptoms. Many people notice their hearts racing, find it hard to sleep, or feel constantly on edge. These are normal reactions; our bodies are hard-wired to keep us safe. But when difficult news keeps coming, that sense of fear can linger, making it harder to switch off, to focus, or to stay calm with those closest to us. Over time, this physical and emotional strain can quietly affect the way we connect with our partners.
When the World Feels Too Much and Overwhelm Enters Relationships
Unfortunately, bad news doesn’t stop at the front door. It filters into our conversations, moods, and the way we connect with those closest to us.
One partner may want to talk endlessly about world events, while the other copes by switching off completely. This mismatch can lead to frustration, misunderstandings, or even conflict.
Sometimes, couples both carry the same worries but avoid sharing them out of fear of adding to each other’s stress. The intention is to protect the relationship, but what often happens is that both partners feel increasingly alone in their struggles. Over time, the weight of unspoken fears can cause couples to drift apart.
The Cost of Silence on Intimacy
When partners hold back from talking about their mental well-being, it is not only the conversations that suffer. Every day moments of affection and support can begin to fade. One person may feel they are “walking on eggshells,” unsure of how to bring up their concerns. The other may appear distant, distracted, or quick to lose patience.
This silence chips away at trust and connection. Even if love is still very much there, the emotional bond feels less steady. It is often at this point that couples realise how much external stress has seeped into their relationship. When bad news is affecting your relationship in this way, the absence of honest communication can be as damaging as the stress itself.
How Counselling Creates a Safe Space to Talk
Talking about mental health can be difficult, especially when both partners are already carrying a heavy load. As a couples counsellor, I can offer a safe, neutral space where you can share your feelings without judgement or blame. Counselling can help partners slow down, really hear each other, and begin to replace silence with understanding.
Small changes can make a big difference. These might include setting boundaries around news consumption or agreeing on gentle daily check-ins.
In counselling, we also recognise the importance of supportive language, rather than accusations or criticism.
These tools can turn overwhelming global stress into a shared challenge, rather than a wedge between partners.
For those unable to attend my North London clinic in person, online sessions via Zoom can be just as effective, providing support from anywhere.
Why Starting the Conversation Matters
This World Mental Health Day serves as a reminder that, while we cannot control the news cycle, we can choose how we care for ourselves and for one another. When bad news is affecting your relationship, silence will only deepen the strain. Finding the courage to discuss your mental well-being and seeking support when needed can help you feel closer, stronger, and more connected.
If you and your partner are struggling to cope with the weight of stress or overwhelm, as a couples counsellor, I can provide the guidance and support you need, whether you visit my North London clinic in person or work with me online. Please contact me here to start a conversation.